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Why are we triggered when someone criticises us?

Basically, Anger or defending an advice or a lecture or a critique depends on the situation.  If it is unwanted help, then it's absolutely normal . You may feel as if someone is interfering in your work or that they don't have faith in you to do it on your own. Anger is a secondary emotion. This advice is often unwanted and can leave you feeling irritated, shamed, or judged.  When someone offers their opinion on what you could be doing differently, it can sometimes feel like criticism . In some situations, the advice-givers aren't judging you, but feeling defensive can make the advice feel like criticism. Everyone has some form of inner rebel that likes to question or do the opposite of what we're told.” Experts call this feeling or need to rebel psychological reactance.  It's your brain's reaction when you feel a threat to your freedom or think your choices are being limited . Hence, it is normal when we are triggered when an elderly person criticises us but it...

Unapologetically me

“Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful, magical person that you are” —MANDY HALE  Absolutely! Embracing our imperfections, quirks, and unique qualities can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life. Here's why:    1. Individuality: Embracing our quirks and flaws allows us to fully express our unique personalities. It's what sets us apart from others and makes us who we are. Celebrating our individuality can bring joy and authenticity to our lives.    2. Self-Acceptance: Embracing our imperfections helps us cultivate self-acceptance. By acknowledging and embracing our flaws, we learn to love ourselves as we are, which boosts self-esteem and overall well-being.    3. Creativity: Embracing our weirdness and embracing our imagination can lead to greater creativity. Our unique perspectives and unconventional ideas can inspire new solutions, art, and innovation.    4. Connection: Being imperfect a...

A self made format

As a research student, I followed a self made format that helped me throughout this research journey.  Knowledge is a powerful tool that empowers individuals and societies . It means the understanding and awareness gained through education, experience, and information and facts . Knowledge equips us with the ability to make decisions, solve problems, and adapt ourselves to different situations. It fences in a wide range of subjects, including academic knowledge, practical skills, and even intangible concepts such as emotional intelligence. We should constantly equip ourselves with knowledge no matter what age we are.  Time management involves allocating time to different activities based on their importance and urgency. Effective time management allows people to make the most of their limited time, leading to increased productivity and reduced stress levels. Developing an effective communication involves not only speaking but also listening attentively and understanding non-ve...

The Parents

 Which of Allah’s favour's would you deny?  The parents are our blessings from him as the most high  It is our duty to Cherish and respect them. I ask for Allah's Prayers and wishes all the time.  Their words sometimes hurt me like those bullets But I understand that they are my biggest well wishers They do all these to me because they wish me good always  We may loose our friends but parents never loose us.  A day I thought the purpose about Life, existence and death.  I found nothing except worshipping Allah is the best.  Next comes my mother as the prophet said Who gave me one meaning to this life and the next.  Next comes my father, the one who rejoices me.  I understood that my pleasure and joy lies in between them. I wish My father’s face to glow with happiness  I wish my mother to stay healthy and always young  But they think that one and only I'm their everything. Oh Allah! care for them as they cared me when I'm young....

Untold Wish

I'm willing to be writer for a long time. So I wish for people to view my work . Until this last year, I was doubtful the more about publicly posting a prominent poem or a story .  When I told my friends about the idea , they suggested that they will support my wish and for success., though I have very small circle of people to circulate my scripts.  I love reading the oldest kinds of story books, like scot Fitzgerald which was written century  ago and history books too. And so, I wish to be a writer. Thanks to  https://t.me/ThePeepTimes who published my work  https://t.me/ThePeepTimes/8572 .